Habits are learned behaviours. When you consider that nobody was born with a cigarette in their mouth, biting their nails, a fear of speaking or performing before others.
Therapeutic methods including traditional techniques such counselling and hypnotherapy are a safe and effective way to access your mind-body brain function to enable the process of unlearning old habits and replace them with new learning within your mind.
Habits such as overeating or smoking are the most common, but there are many other behaviours that affect people’s lives, make them unhappy or cause a risk to their health and the health of those around them.
If you have an unwanted habit or behaviour, it may often feel as if you are out of control, that there is someone else or something inside of you that is making you do this. A “little voice” that tells you to do something when you don’t want to do it. But that little voice is part of you and is part of your protection system.
As a species we evolved to survive and thrive so our subconscious minds are always creating mechanisms that support this. However, sometimes things get distorted and what your subconscious thinks is a protection mechanism becomes an unwanted habit that causes you upset rather than allowing you to survive and thrive.
The good news is that you are in control, you can change how you react to certain situations, and you can protect yourself in ways that are healthy and which allow you to succeed and grow stronger in body and mind. You just need to know how to change it, and to believe you can
Typical areas we can help with are:
Nail biting – people start biting their nails when they are anxious or stressed – and after a while they don’t even realize they are doing it until other people comment about your habit. And of course, just like any other habit, the more you bite your nails – the harder it can be to stop. This is because nail-biting has now become an unconscious response – something you might do when you are not even stressed or anxious.
But you are beginning to realise how unsightly chewed nails look – perhaps you hide your hands in embarrassment when attention is brought to that region of your body. And it is because you want to look good, and feel good, and would like to have lovely, smooth, rounded nails, that you have decided to seek help to overcome that old habit of yours – once and for all.
Mouth and Cheek Biting – If you have a problem with biting the inside of your cheek/mouth and you’ve now really had enough of this old habit of yours, its time you decided to do something about it.
Using relaxation techniques you will feel so relaxed and comfortable that there is really no need and no desire to chew or bite this area – or anywhere else for that matter.
This habit may have originated for a reason, however, you may now realise that, whatever that reason was, and perhaps it served some sort of function at the time, it is no longer appropriate or desirable or necessary.
So you are ready to stop this habit right now, have you really had enough of mouth and cheek biting?
Whatever has been triggering this action we can help you find an alternative that is healthier and more practical, whilst at the same time help make you feel calmer and gives you a wonderful feeling of self-control and confidence.
Nervous Cough – Bothered with what is known as a nervous cough. Once you have been reassured that there is nothing physically wrong that is causing the cough, this symptom is usually linked to anxiety, which is why it seems to surface whenever you feel under stress.
We may not know why this cough started but it is very likely to have been a response to a situation in the past where you felt that you had to suppress yourself in some way, and this response soon became a conditioned response to future anxieties.
Together we can change these patterns by creating new and healthy alternatives; we can help you to do this, with the help of your own wonderful, subconscious mind.
Stop Thumb Sucking – Babies have natural rooting and sucking reflexes, which can cause them to put their thumbs or fingers into their mouths — sometimes even before birth.
Because thumb sucking makes babies feel secure, some might eventually develop a habit of thumb sucking when they’re in need of soothing or going to sleep.
Children suck their thumbs because it’s comforting and calming. Your child probably practiced this habit while they were still in the womb and perfected it as an infant.
Now they turn to their thumb when tired, scared, bored, sick, or trying to adjust to challenges such as starting nursery or preschool. They may also use their thumb to help fall asleep at bedtime and to lull themself back to sleep when woken up in the middle of the night.
Children usually give up thumb-sucking when they find other ways to calm and comfort themselves. If your child tends to suck their thumb when they are hungry, for instance, she’ll soon learn to simply open the fridge and look for something to eat or ask you for a snack instead.
The key is to notice when and where sucking occurs and try to divert her attention by offering an alternative.
Swallowing Pills with Ease – Many adults and children alike share the problem of swallowing tablets; It’s understandably strange to swallow a solid substance without chewing.
It can seem against our natural reflexes. However, taking medications in pill form is much more convenient and the medications have a much longer shelf life.
Now the first thing we must address is any fear of choking or inhaling a tablet that you may have. In your throat is something called the epiglottis, which folds over the voice box.
It is because of this that it is physically impossible to inhale a pill. So there is absolutely no need for you to worry about this happening.
There are two reasons that may cause to be having difficulty swallowing pills.
The first is that something may have happened in your past that made you nervous when it came to swallowing.
Perhaps you had an uncomfortable experience with a pip or seed when you were younger, or someone forced you to take a pill against your wishes.
Teeth Grinding – Stressful situations occur every day, which may cause us to grit our teeth. Whenever one of these anxiety producing events happens, or is going to happen, such as you unconsciously grit your teeth.
Now you have a way of handling the situation, by keeping just enough nervous energy to deal with the task perfectly – and letting go of excess tension.
When you’re ready to go to sleep at night you can practice, saying something like ‘Nothing is important enough in life to grind me down.’ as most teeth grinding happens during the night.
The cause is that the subconscious mind remembers the stressful or anxiety producing situations which have occurred during the day, or threaten to occur in the future, and replays them many times during the night.
It’s so nice when you’re feeling tired to just rest your head and drift down into a nice, deep, comfortable physiological sleep, and so delightful to be aware of that comfortable feeling that you experience when there is an appropriate amount of space between your teeth – no contact.
Compulsive Hair Pulling – You’ve been pulling out your hair for a long time now – and it’s something that you’re getting really fed up with – you’re beginning to feel really ashamed of your head being the way that it is – bald in some patches even – and really want to be able to have beautiful looking hair – not only on your head, but everywhere it should be – your eyebrows, eyelashes and other areas of your body as well, we can help you to overcome that problem and grow nice, thick, healthy hair.
Unwanted Thoughts – Unwanted thoughts are an extremely common symptom of anxiety disorders. Anxiety is the type of mental health disorder that specifically causes negative thinking, and the inability to control the thoughts that come into your head. For some people, anxiety itself can be caused by these thoughts.
The most important thing to realize about unwanted thoughts is that the more you try to fight them, the more common they become. That’s what anxiety does – it prevents you from focusing on anything else other than the things that cause you anxiety.
Whether it’s obsessive thoughts that cause anxiety or anxiety that causes unwanted thoughts, the reality is that unusual or otherwise “crazy” thoughts are actually a very normal part of everyone’s life. Many people have strange thoughts or fears that they want to avoid, and many people have wondered things that are inappropriate or otherwise distressing.
The difference is that those people don’t have anxiety, so they were able to laugh them off without a second thought. Those with anxiety find that these thoughts cause them incredible worry, and that worry is one of the reasons that so many people find these thoughts to be so overwhelming.
When these thoughts cause you that level of anxiety you need to get treatment – not just for the thoughts themselves, but also for the anxiety that allows those thoughts to affect you.
Taking the next step is simple. Talk to us about how we can help with a FREE initial consultation. You will find us friendly, approachable and professional. Your confidentially is assured at all times.